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The Rape Apologists are On the Prowl

STFU

I’m far too busy to deal with the ridiculous bullshit pouring out of the mouths of mansplainers and rape apologists,  specifically with respect to what happened to Lara Logan, and particularly with respect to those who are attacking my Angry Black Commenters.  (I can’t even wade into the fuckery over at Balloon Juice because I don’t have time; there are some commenters (both men and women) who are doing an excellent job over there explaining to the bone-headed Neanderthals what the fuck is up.)

I’m particularly appalled by the fuckwits who are trying to make the case that ZOMG!  MOOSLIN MEN (AND BLACK AND HISPANIC MEN TWO!!!) ARE SO BROWN AND RAPEY BECUZ ITS IN THERE BONEZ!!!11one

Hey you? SHUT THE FUCK UP. YOU’RE AN ASSHOLE. (fucking click here)

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South Dakota's Proposed Law is Truly Fucked Up

Further to John Cole’s post on South Dakota’s proposed law over at Balloon Juice (and my post about it below), consider this map (via Pleated Jeans), compiled from Census data:


41. South Dakota: highest rate of forcible rape 76.5 per 100,000

There’s that “forcible” word again.

I followed the links to try to determine what “forcible” means. I’ve spent fifteen minutes on teh Google thus far, and the answer is, “I don’t fucking know.” The map references census information; the census information provides a link, which sends you to a PDF download, which, in turn, sends you to a dead link about dinosaurs. I searched the FBI’s website and found that there seems to be some dispute about the definition of “forcible rape.” I dug a little deeper and found that dispute relates to whether or not to include men as victims. (They should be.) There seems to be no clarification about the word “forcible”: Continue reading

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Georgia Republican Bobby Franklin: You say you’re a rape victim? Uh-uh — not so fast. Prove it!

Fuck these people. Seriously.

Fresh off the heels of the Republican effort to redefine rape, Georgia Republicans have begun their latest assault on women1: Representative Bobby Franklin (R-GA) has introduced a bill to change the state’s criminal and civil codes so that victims of rape, stalking, and domestic violence can no longer be called “victims” but must be called “accusers” until the defendant has been convicted.

Let that sink in for a minute.  If your brain hasn’t exploded already, proceed with caution.  I make no guarantees about the intacted-ness of your grey matter upon reading the rest of this post.

The downgrading of “victim” to mere “accuser” applies only to rape, as far as I can tell.  If you’ve been mugged, or robbed, or defrauded, you’re still a victim.  (And poor you, by the way.)  If some person has violated you sexually without your consent, however, you’re just an accuser: we don’t quite believe you yet; we need to know how much you had to drink; we need to determine whether you were wearing slutty boots, fuck me heels, or booty shorts; we also need to know whether or not you’re just saying you were raped because he didn’t call you the next day.

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The Daily Show: Rape? Rape-rape? Rapish?

I meant to post this a couple days ago.

You’ve probably already seen it, but if you haven’t, Kristen Schall attempts to explain the GOP’s scheme to redefine rape:

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The GOP has already backed away from this full on assault against women, but has yet to explain why the fuck they thought it was a good idea in the first place.

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Take a Lesson From the Rand Paul Campaign: If You Stomp On Someone's Head, Complain that the Stompee's Head Was in the Way and Demand an Apology!

Tina Turner was right: All we need is life beyond the Thunderdome.

So, you know how some asshat who worked for the Rand Paul campaign straight up stomped on MoveOn activist Lauren Valle’s head?  According to Valle, Rand’s limousine pulled up; she walked up to the car to hand him a card; Rand’s security team ran around the car; they tackled her to the ground so that her head was on the curb with her harms behind her back; and, Tim Profitt stomped on her head.   HE STOMPED ON HER HEAD.

Valle says that she heard one of Paul’s security team say something about “taking someone out.” [Olbermann interview with Valle after the jump]

Of course the Asshats on the Right are trying to make light of the incident. Rand Paul went on to Fox News (because of course he did) and tried to downplay what had happened. When asked “What was your reaction that folks who were wearing Rand Paul tee shirts [I think you mean Rand Paul campaign volunteers, not random people off the street sporting shirts] and hats treated this woman this way [treated this way?! I think you mean STOMPED ON HER HEAD!]” Paul responded:

“We want everybody to be civil. We want this campaign to be about issues. I will tell you that when we arrived, there was enormous passion on both sides. It really was something where you walk into a daze of lights flashing, people yelling and screaming, bumping up. And there was a bit of a crowd control problem. And I don’t want anybody, though, to be involved in things that aren’t civil. I think this should always be about the issues and is an unusual situation that so many people, so passionate on both sides jockeying back and forth and it wasn’t something that I liked or anybody liked about that situation. So I hope in the future it’s gonna be better.

Enormous passion!? What the fuck? What, was it a reenactment of some Telemundo soap opera?!   Where you acting out a chapter from a Harlequin romance novel?!

THE DUDE STOMPED ON A WOMAN’S HEAD.  He didn’t rip off the bodice of her dress, murmur “My sweet Liberal Lady of Lust… mi amor!”  and then throw her down for some rousing lovemaking by the fire.   HE STOMPED ON HER DING DANG HEAD!!!

Jesus H. Bieber.  What is wrong with people?!

And, of course, leave it to Tea Party/Republican asshats to argue that the video was taken out of context, and is being used by crazy libruls to reinforce some off-the-wall notion that the Tea Party is full of jobs, both nut and whack.  I mean, duh. If you look at the video upside down, it looks like Profitt is actually putting a pillow under her head and giving her an ice cream cone:

[To read the rest, won't you join me as I try not to accidentally set stuff on fire over at John Cole's place of residence?  Click here to be magically transported to Balloon Juice!]

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Chris Brown Cried Like a Damn Fool at the BET Awards

The “WTF!?” look on John Legend’s face said it all.

Somebody call a wahmbulance!

I watched the BET Awards last night.  It was 3 hours of Negro shenanigans hosted by Queen Latifah who felt the need to change into every costume she’s ever worn in any movie.  I half expected her to drive up on stage in a taxi cab with Jimmy Fallon riding shotgun.

There were a couple touching moments.  John Legend got the Humanitarian Award.  He’s fantastic.  That’s all I have to say about that.  Don’t believe me?  Check after the jump for video proof of his WIN.

Prince got a Lifetime Achievement Award.  During his speech, he had some words of advice; he said that he was wild in his younger days (Ya think?) and that you (meaning YOU, CHRIS BROWN!) don’t have to take the same path.  Then he thanked Jehovah and continued to try to convince us that Darling Nikki never happened.

Patti LaBelle belting out Purple Rain, kicking her shoes off into the crowd, and Prince grabbing one and holding it up high in a sign of victory, was pretty awesome.  I practically expected him to raise up the shoe and say “PRINCE!” à la “STEVE HOLT!”

Chris Brown did a tribute to Michael Jackson that was pretty decent up until it got rick-dickulous.  His moves were just aight; they aren’t as sharp as MJ’s, but really, whose are?  Except for Janet’s.  Frankly, I was hoping that Janet would walk up on stage and show us how shit really is done.  But, I reckon she had the sense to stay home and away from all the Negro Nonsense.***

And then the ridiculous happened:  He started to sing Man in the Mirror, but was, seemingly, so overcome with “Hot damn, I really wish I hadn’t beaten the crap out of Rihanna last year, so lemme weep and sing/talk about ‘take a look in the mirror and make  a change!’ and maybe if I fall to my knees and really dial those tears up to eleven, all the people who now think I’m a misogynistic dick will forgive me.”

Um.  No.

I’m not buying your crocodile tears, asshat.  Next time just don’t hit a woman, and then you won’t have to act the fool on stage in front of Biebs**** and everybody.

Rihanna didn’t show up.  I would have loved to see her face while he was up there crying like a jackass.

[video after the jump]

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Female "Anti-Rape" Condoms With Teeth Being Distributed to Women at the World Cup

Vagina Dentata becoming a reality

A South African doctor has invented Rape-aXe — a female condom with teeth — and is distributing them to women at the World Cup:

South African Dr. Sonnet Ehlers was on call one night four decades ago when a devastated rape victim walked in. Her eyes were lifeless; she was like a breathing corpse.

She looked at me and said, ‘If only I had teeth down there,’” recalled Ehlers, who was a 20-year-old medical researcher at the time. “I promised her I’d do something to help people like her one day.

Forty years later, Rape-aXe was born.

The woman inserts the latex condom like a tampon. Jagged rows of teeth-like hooks line its inside and attach on a man’s penis during penetration, Ehlers said.

Once it lodges, only a doctor can remove it — a procedure Ehlers hopes will be done with authorities on standby to make an arrest.

It hurts, he cannot pee and walk when it’s on,” she said. “If he tries to remove it, it will clasp even tighter… however, it doesn’t break the skin, and there’s no danger of fluid exposure.”

Ehlers said she sold her house and car to launch the project, and she planned to distribute 30,000 free devices under supervision during the World Cup period.

I consulted engineers, gynecologists and psychologists to help in the design and make sure it was safe,” she said.

After the trial period, they’ll be available for about $2 a piece. She hopes the women will report back to her.

The ideal situation would be for a woman to wear this when she’s going out on some kind of blind date … or to an area she’s not comfortable with,” she said.

The mother of two daughters said she visited prisons and talked to convicted rapists to find out whether such a device would have made them rethink their actions.

Some said it would have, Ehlers said.

Um.

Well.

Call me crazy, but I’m not sure how this helps, and in fact, it seems to me that it could make things worse.  First, the Rape-aXe has no value until you’ve already been raped. Dr. Ehlers mentions that she was prompted to develop this device after a rape victim remarked to her that “she wished she had teeth down there.”  Sure.  Maybe visible teeth; but I’m not sure how a “condom” that is worn internally could possibly ward off rapists.  Second, she says that the device could be worn if a woman is going on a blind date or is going to be in an unsafe area.  But these aren’t the most common situations that lead to rape, at least not in the U.S.  So… I don’t know.

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I Bought My Friend a "Sorry, You Were Raped" Gift…

And she loved it.

Yesterday, a friend of mine told me that she was taking a very brave step; she would be reporting her sexual assault to the police and pressing charges.  She told me rather cavalierly, but inside, I was thinking, “Holy shit!  This is a huge deal!”

Here’s why it’s a huge deal: Sixty percent of sexual assaults go unreported.

Here are some other really disturbing statistics for you:

  • In the United States, 1.3 women are raped every minute. That results in 78 rapes each hour, 1872 rapes each day, 56160 rapes each month and 683,280 rapes each year.
  • Only 16% of rapes are ever reported to the police.
  • 1 out of every 3 American women will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime.
  • The United States has the world’s highest rape rate of the countries that publish such statistics. It’s 4 times higher than Germany, 13 times higher than England, and 20 times higher than Japan.
  • 1 in 7 women will be raped by her husband.
  • 83% of rape cases are ages 24 or under.
  • 1 in 4 college women have either been raped or suffered attempted rape.
  • 1 in 12 males students surveyed had committed acts that met the legal definition of rape. Furthermore, 84% of the men who had committed such acts said what they had done was definitely not rape.
  • 75% of male students and 55% of female students involved in acquaintance rape had been drinking or using drugs.

    So, when she decided to report her assault to the police, she joined that small sixteen percent who do so.  That is not to say that there is anything wrong, whatsoever, with choosing not to.  It’s a personal experience and it’s a personal decision, and the only thing that women (or men) who have suffered this heinous crime must concern themselves with is healing.

    Nonetheless, I wanted to commemorate my friend’s brave decision.

    But, what is appropriate for such an occasion?  I couldn’t decide.  So I wandered over to Fred Segal to see what they had.  (Also, I was craving a caprese salad.  But that’s neither here nor there.  Or perhaps it’s here and there.  Don’t ask me.  I just work here.)

    Eventually, I settled on a wine kit and a nice bottle of wine:

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    In Defense of Jenna Jameson

    I’m Not a Fan, Just a Feminist

    When the news broke that Jenna Jameson was pressing charges of domestic abuse against her boyfriend and father of her children, Ultimate Fighting Championship fighter Tito Ortiz, the Twitter-scape exploded with tweets.

    Now the story has become a he-said, she-said incident where Ortiz’s camp is claiming Jenna is addicted to drugs, fell down, and for some reason decided to blame her injuries on her boyfriend.

    I don’t care about the he-said/she-said. Most likely Ortiz did in fact beat up Jenna. Most likely she is addicted to drugs. Most likely the accusations and drama will continue to escalate. What I care about are the reactions to the news online, and the attitudes they portray.

    The tweets about the subject, outside those that just shared links to the story, tended to trend as follows:

    Those who couldn’t resist a good pounding pun:

    Honore_et_Amore: Tito Ortiz arrested this morning after domesticabuse charges from Jenna Jameson. First time she’s gotten pounded and didn’t like it.


    mxdveggies: Tito Ortiz arrested for pounding on Jenna Jameson? He pounds for a living, she gets pounded for a living. I don’t see the problem


    Or a “shots to the face” reference:

    ZlataThoughts: Tito Ortiz was arrested for domestic abuse. JennaJameson is ok though. She’s taken many clean shots to the face and never been KO’d!


    MikeClemente: Tito Ortiz gave Jenna Jameson a new shot to the face. #DontDropTheSoap

    Or slamming Tito’s skill as a fighter (or lack thereof):

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