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Dear Asian-Americans: I am so sorry that I didn’t warn you about the GOP.

Or: The GOP – they really don’t seem to like much of anybody!

Last week, I wrote a post asking the GOP to just shut up about black people, a post which got a surprising amount of attention across the web.

In the aftermath of that, I found myself wondering: “Huh. Who is the GOP going to demonize and belittle next in this election cycle?”

And I knew: Asian-Americans. A post began to form itself in my head, one I intended to write sometime this week.

I mean, they’ve demonized and belittled gay people already:

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Tennessee Restaurant Refuses to Serve Anti-Gay State Senator Stacey Campfield; Campfield Absurdly Indignant About It

WTF.  No, seriously.  WTF.

Here’s some news that will simultaneously tickle your schadenfreude bone and make you weep for humanity.

Warning: it’s mostly going to be the “weep for humanity” thing:

Martha Boggs, owner of the Bistro at the Bijou, says she ordered state Sen. Stacey Campfield out of her Gay Street restaurant and banned him from brunch Sunday in disgust over his recent remarks about gays and the origin of the AIDS virus. [You really must read this news article in order to wrap your mind around the sheer bigotry and stupidity that Senator Campfield promotes. -ed.]

“When I saw him at the front door, I told him to leave,” Boggs said Monday. “It’s just my way to show support for the gay community and stand up to somebody I think is a bully. He’s really gone from being stupid to dangerous. I think he needs to know what it feels like to be discriminated against.”

Campfield responded with a blog post comparing himself to Jesus Christ and to the civil-rights demonstrators of the 1960s.

Campfield’s blog post illustrates the sheer magnitude of bigoted fuckery we’re dealing with when it comes to these right-wing nutbags. I’m reposting Campfield’s nonsense in full because — because — well — just read it:

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“How to make love to a trans person.”

I left the following as a comment in Ta-Nehisi Coates’s (near-) daily open thread today, and decided to make it into a post in its own right. There are so many ways to be human. 

Amanda Simpson, senior technical adviser in the Commerce Department's Bureau of Industry and Security, is the first known transgender person appointed to a position in the US government. She was appointed by President Obama a year ago this week.

In wandering about among some of my favorite blogs the other day, I found that my internet pal sara_l_r had linked to this lovely, lovely poem over at her place, Ends and Leavings, and I decided I wanted to share it, too:

How To Make Love to a Trans Person.

I know that we have a number of trans people in the community of commenters at Ta-Nehisi’s place, and I suspect there are more that I don’t know about, and I’ve recently been trying to come to grips with my sheer inability to grasp the reality of the lives lived by people who identify as trans.

I’ve long felt that you are who you tell me you are, and in whatever language you use, but there are places where it’s simply a greater challenge for my head to go to and hope to understand.

The fact of Dana International, an Israeli singer and trans woman, made a big difference for me, many years ago, but recently — because of the folks at Ta-Nehisi’s place and, like the rest of America, Chaz Bono — I’ve found myself realizing how far I had to come still. Reading about and watching interviews with Chaz helped (and I know some in the LGBTQ community have issues with him, not to mention women more generally having issue with what some see as his misogyny, but I’m working at a much, much more basic level here!), as did reading a wonderful, loving Boston Globe article about identical twins, one of whom is a boy and one of whom is a trans girl – and then the other day, this poem helped enormously.

Here’s a small piece of it:

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Vaclav Havel, Jack Layton, and the year that was in LGBTQ rights.

Over at BuzzFeed this morning, you’ll find a very heartwarming post: 40 Reasons Why 2011 Was the Best Year for Gays Ever, including such very cool items as:

  1. On February 1, the State Department began issuing passport applications that asks applicants for Mother or parent one andFather or parent two instead of for Father andMother - “in recognition of different types of families.” (I didn’t even know this was a thing!)
  2. On February 23, the Justice Department announced that it will no longer defend the constitutionality the Defense of Marriage Act in court.
  3. In May, for the first time, a Gallup poll found that most Americans support legalizing same sex marriage.
  4. On September 20, Don’t Ask Don’t Tell was officially repealed.
  5. On December 6, the Obama Administration issued a memorandum directing US agencies abroad to use foreign aid to assist LGBT people  facing human rights violations, and to protect LGBT refugees and asylum seekers. In a related speech to the UN in Geneva, Secretary of State Clinton declared that LGBT rights are universal human rights.

I often joke that the only reliable source for good news these days is the LGBTQ community, and it’s the ding-dang truth — but the deeper truth is that all of these advances also serve to show how far we’ve had to come, and still have to go, in recognizing the essential humanity of millions of our fellow Americans. Furthermore, it’s very important to note that while it was the best year ever for gays in the US and a few other places, it wasn’t particularly rosy elsewhere — such as those countries where a person can quite literally be put to death for being gay.

Yet these facts do not detract from the good news for our LGBTQ brothers and sisters, and I cannot help but think that as things improve in the west, they will also begin to improve elsewhere.

And this brings me to Vaclav Havel and Jack Layton.

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Silly, joyful, and in honor of World AIDS Day.

December 1st is World AIDS Day, a date I usually note only in passing, but for a variety of reasons, I’ve been flooded today with memories of just how awful the AIDS crisis was.

Families disowning sons and daughters who tested positive, children hounded out of schools, and so, so many deaths. A generation of gay men decimated. I lost three friends back then: Danny, Mario, and Barry, may their memories be for a blessing. My fourth friend with AIDS, a woman, is today a grandmother. The scythe missed a few, and I am so grateful for every year.

At the time, as we struggled to learn just what “safe sex” was, suffered the slow deaths of loved ones, felt helpless and often quite terrified, there was much social activity — organizing, marches, simply speaking out. Knowledge, we said, was power. Silence was death.

Some translated these efforts, this pain, the love and fear, into art, some of it awful, some touching (remember the AIDS quilt, still going strong?), and much of it quite powerful. I was particularly taken with the Red Hot + Blue compilation, a tribute to Cole Porter that found new meaning in wonderful old songs (oh my, this kd lang version of So In Love, the video an absolute heart-wrecking complement to the lyrics…).

Under the circumstances, though, you can imagine that “life-affirming,” “joyful,” and/or “silly” were kind of hard to come by. It was a really, really dark time.

Into the breach stepped the always remarkable Billy Bragg — electric guitar folksinger, socialist rabble-rouser, and writer of some of the most lovely love songs penned in the modern age (see also). (Also: Fan of soccer and ’60s girl groups).

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Make it better now.

It’s not enough to tell LGBTQ kids that “it gets better.” We have to make it better now.

I would like to say that clarity of thought came to me on my own, but it didn’t — I needed a Canadian to tell me.

I became vaguely aware of Canadian comedian Rick Mercer sometime in the last several months, I think in the same time period that I was discovering Jack Layton (or maybe before, when I was learning about Canadian politics). Thankfully, I didn’t have to wait for Mercer to die before I figured out I should be paying attention — he’s kind of an angrier/ more blatantly patriotic/ more blatantly activist Jon Stewart (if I may mix my satirists and my nation-states), and I not infrequently have no idea what the hell he’s on about, because I’m American. But I like him and his Rick Mercer Report.

He opens his shows with a Rant; the following ran after last month’s suicide of Canadian gay teen Jamie Hubley, 15 years old.  Jamie’s suicide note makes clear reference to the entirely admirable and often beautiful It Gets Better Project: “I don’t want to wait 3 more years. This hurts too much. How do you even know It will get better? Its not.

Mercer is himself gay (a thing he doesn’t mention in the clip, but to me he comes across as assuming people already know — in a subsequent interview he said “I don’t know how many times a guy can come out of the closet in this country”), and this rant is a thing of towering, beautiful fury:

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Adorable lesbian homecoming couple is adorable.

Our darling and beloved asiangrrlMN already mentioned this story in a post, but I feel a powerful need to give it more love. Indulge me, won’t you?

Haileigh Adams (l) and Rebeca Arellano.

So the other day I saw this story, and justlikethat, my day got immeasurably brighter:

Two California high school students became one of the first lesbian couples crowned homecoming king and queen in the nation this weekend.

Rebeca Arellano, a senior at Patrick Henry High School, was made the school’s first female homecoming king when her name was announced Friday at a pep rally.

“They were chanting my name and it was one of the most amazing experiences I’ve ever had,” said Arellano.

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The Power of Incrementalism: Gay Troops File Suit Challenging DOMA

How do you tear down a wall? One brick at a time.

UPDATE BELOW THE FOLD

MAJ Shannon McLaughlin is a United States Army Major in the Massachusetts National Guard and serves as a Judge Advocate General (JAG). Her current military assignment is Chief of Legal Assistance for the Massachusetts Army National Guard. She has served for 13 years and is married in the State of Massachusetts to her partner of more than three years, Casey McLaughlin. They are the proud parents of ten-month old twins, Grace and Grant McLaughlin. (via SLDN)

Reported in the Washington Post:

Gay and lesbian service members and veterans plan to file suit Thursday challenging the constitutionality of the federal ban on gay marriage and federal policy that define a spouse as a person of the opposite sex.

The suit comes five weeks after the Pentagon ended its ban on gays in the military.

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Zachary Quinto comes out. (Updated).

In case you missed it: Zachary Quinto (aka: Spock) came out this weekend. He discussed his sexuality for the first time in an interview with New York Magazine and addressed the decision to do so in a blog post:

when i found out that jamey rodemeyer killed himself – i felt deeply troubled.  but when i found out that jamey rodemeyer had made an it gets better video only months before taking his own life – i felt indescribable despair.  i also made an it gets better video last year – in the wake of the senseless and tragic gay teen suicides that were sweeping the nation at the time.  but in light of jamey’s death – it became clear to me in an instant that living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it – is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality.  our society needs to recognize the unstoppable momentum toward unequivocal civil equality for every gay lesbian bisexual and transgendered citizen of this country.  gay kids need to stop killing themselves because they are made to feel worthless by cruel and relentless bullying.  parents need to teach their children principles of respect and acceptance.  we are witnessing an enormous shift of collective consciousness throughout the world.  we are at the precipice of great transformation within our culture and government.  i believe in the power of intention to change the landscape of our society – and it is my intention to live an authentic life of compassion and integrity and action.  jamey rodemeyer’s life changed mine.  and while his death only makes me wish that i had done this sooner – i am eternally grateful to him for being the catalyst for change within me.  now i can only hope to serve as the same catalyst for even one other person in this world.  that – i believe – is all that we can ask of ourselves and of each other.

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In an ideal world, of course, no one would need to come out — or, at least, no more so than people occasionally have to come out as, say, vegetarian, or Jewish, or left-handed. Occasionally, when you’re not part of the majority culture, you have to give people a head’s up.

But we are, of course, not yet living in an ideal world.

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